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There is also a slightly different approach, one that I think is easier for most people to start with, and that is simply to stop taking the easy way.

Modern life is designed to dis-able you. Literally. All the hard work has been taken away from you. From the elevator/lift to your office or apartment, to the cocooned luxury of your car, to the delivery service, and the gardener and cleaner, and the child minder, and the decorator or repair guy, and even the TV, Netflix and YouTube subscriptions that 'do entertainment' to you, rather that you going out there to participate in actively entertaining yourself.

For decades I have tried to embrace a life that is just a little bit more difficult. Not in any dramatic way, I'm not talking about Iron Man training, or even cycling everywhere! Just living my life in a way that involved a little more activity, rather than a little less - taking the stairs, walking faster, going the long way around, walking to the shops and carrying a couple of bags of groceries home, walking, brushing and washing my own dog, living in a hilly place rather than a flat place, cutting up and hand mixing food rather than using a blender, washing my own car, driving older cars with fewer labour saving devices (even no power steering!). I'm not trying to be a Luddite, but I simply don't believe that an easier life, with no work involved, is better for us.

In Britain there is a term, 'bungalow legs' where, as people get older, they retire to a bungalow with no stairs, ready for their future mobility to decline. The issue is that their decline in mobility accelerates because they aren't climbing stairs anymore!

Most of the time I live on a boat. It involved stepping on and off, lots of balance and ducking and carrying stuff, lots of adjusting ropes and heavy weights, like full gas bottles and weekly shopping trips. I have friends close to my age (70's) that need my help to step on to the boat, and steady them as they walk along the deck - I usually sit them down before they fall over and hurt themselves!

Contrast that with other friends, a married couple in their 80's that drive from northern England to catch the ferry to their 3 storey cottage in France. Once here, they walk everywhere, and until a couple of years ago played tennis every week, went sea swimming on the coast, and he still does his own maintenance jobs. They both talk like 50's year olds, with wide interests and well considered opinions, still open to new ideas.

I never really got into the gym thing. I would go for a while (usually for the pool, sauna and hot tub! 🙂) and then it would slowly fade, until I would get fed up of paying for it (and usually end up in a fight to end the gym contract!). But a few years ago I picked up a book by Mark Jenkins, 'The Jump Off', an unusual work-out manual from the celebrity trainer that famously trained the musician D'Angelo, resulting in a notorious music video 'Untitled - How does it feel'. The point is that it isn't really a gym fitness book, but can be a home fitness habit that just involves a few exercises. So now i might do some 45 degree push-ups against the kitchen worktops as I wait for something to cook, or do some 'sit down - stand up' repeats (try doing 20, as fast as you can), and I have some barbells to run through some shoulder and arm exercises after too long on the computer. No stress, no guilt, and no expeditions to the gym. So much easier.

I live in France, where a doctor's visit usually seems to end up with medication, so I am met with some surprise when i say I don't take anything - no prescribed medication for many years. But I have also cut out added salt or added sugar from my diet, and don't use milk (though do use cream or yoghurt in cooking sometimes), and I walk a lot with my dog. A few years ago, when working in a stressful business, my blood pressure was raised and a doctor recommended statins. I looked up the side effects (pretty scary!) so instead cut salt, walked more, meditated 3 or more times a week, and within 3 months my BP was down to 130/70, which is where it has been ever since.

It seems to me that in the near future, many, many people are going to have to learn to live with less medication and far fewer 'labour saving devices', and perhaps less food too. I am reminded that in Britain in WW2, with a diet halved in calories by rationing and all gardens dug up to grow vegetables, and fuel rationed so everyone bicycled or walked, people were quickly healthier and, if you dodged the bombs and the unfiltered cigarettes, then people actually lived longer, healthier lives.

Something to look forward to, perhaps? Well, sort of......

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Gonna be honest, I normally love your posts, but as someone who's disabled before middle age this really does inspire me to give up entirely.

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